Perhaps the most important tip for communicating with parents/guardians is for you to use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. “I” statements, which are detailed in the aMAZE journey for Girl Scout Cadettes, tell someone what you need from her or him, while “you” statements may make the person feel defensive.
Here are some examples of “you” statements:
• “Your daughter just isn’t responsible.”
• “You’re not doing your share.”
Now look at “I” statements:
• “I’d like to help your daughter learn to take more responsibility.”
• “I’d really appreciate your help with registration.”
If you need help with specific scenarios involving parents/guardians, try the following:
|Is uninvolved and asks how she can help but seems to have no idea of how to follow through or take leadership of even the smallest activity
||"I do need your help. Here are some written guidelines on how to prepare for our camping trip"|
|Constantly talks about all the ways you could make the group better
||"I need your leadership. Project ideas you would like to develop and lead can fit in well with our plan. Please put your ideas in writing, and perhaps I can help you carry them out."|
|Tells you things like, "Denise's mother is on welfare, and Denise really doesn't belong in this group."
||"I need your sensitivity. Girl Scotuing is for all girls, and by teaching your daughter to be sensitive to others' felelings you help teach the whole group sensitivity.|
|Shifts parental responsibilities to you and is so busy with her own life that she allows no time to help
||" I lover volunteering for Girl Scouts and want to make a difference. If you could take a few moments from your busy schedule to let me know what you value about what we're doing, I'd appreciate it. It would keep me going for another year."|